Just this morning I finally found an old friend I'd been looking for for the last ten years, on Facebook of all things. I'd done her wrong years ago---in the way really young, stupid, religious people do so many people wrong---and have wanted to change that reality for so long. I am really grateful for a potential opportunity to do just that.
I see the same propensity in my 15-year-old daughter, who takes a great deal after myself. And I sigh; feel a little guilty, feel a little sorry for her... but she'll learn. I had to learn the hard way myself, and that included losing a really good friend over stupid rules. Though I can't foresee the hurdles she'll face, I can at least ensure that the only rules for human behavior that she really needs to trouble herself over while growing up is "respect each other" and "do unto others as you would have done unto you." Period.
That pretty much covers it.